In 1993 a comedic movie was released starring Bill Murray and Andie Mc Dowell. The basic plot is as follows:
Self-centered and sour TV meteorologist Phil Connors (Bill Murray), news producer Rita (Andie MacDowell) and cameraman Larry (Chris Elliott) from fictional Pittsburgh television station WPBH-TV9 travel to Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, to cover the annual Groundhog Dayfestivities with Punxsutawney Phil. Having grown tired of this assignment, Phil grudgingly gives his report and attempts to return to Pittsburgh when a blizzard shuts down the roads. Phil and his team are forced to return to Punxsutawney and stay in town overnight.
Phil wakes up to find that he is reliving February 2. The day plays out exactly as it did before, with no one else aware of the time loop, and only Phil aware of past events. At first he is confused, but, when the phenomenon continues on subsequent days, he decides to take advantage of the situation with no fear of long-term consequences: he learns secrets from the town’s residents, seduces women, steals money, drives recklessly, and gets thrown in jail. However, his attempts to get closer to Rita repeatedly fail.
Eventually, Phil becomes despondent and tries more and more drastically to end the time loop; he gives ridiculous and offensive reports on the festival, abuses residents, and eventually kidnaps Punxsutawney Phil and, after a police chase, drives into a quarry, evidently killing both himself and the groundhog. However, Phil wakes up and finds that nothing has changed; further attempts at suicide are just as fruitless as he continues to find himself awaking at 6:00 A.M. on the morning of February 2 with the clock-radio on his nightstand playing I Got You, Babe by Sonny & Cher.
When Phil explains the situation to Rita, she suggests that he should take advantage of it to improve himself. Inspired, Phil endeavors to try to learn more about Rita, building upon his knowledge of her and the town each day. He begins to use his by-now vast experience of the day to help as many people around town as possible. He uses the time to learn, among other things, to play piano, ice sculpt and speak French.
Eventually, Phil is able to befriend almost everyone he meets during the day, using his experiences to save lives, help townspeople, and to get closer to Rita. He crafts a report on the Groundhog Day celebration so eloquent that all the other stations turn their microphones to him. After the evening dance, Rita and Phil retire together to Phil’s room. He wakes the next morning and finds the time loop is broken; it is now February 3 and Rita is still with him. After going outside, Phil talks about living in Punxsutawney with Rita.
Think about your own life, do you have certain patterns of events, circumstances or failure, repeat themselves over and over? Do you find yourself in the same failed relationships again and again. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but the one common denominator in all these dramas is YOU! You tell yourself that, you just need a better partner, boss. You need to change the cast of characters etc. What you don’t realize is that it is YOU that creates and re creates the same drama again and again. You can change the names, but the core problem remains the same.
It has been said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Are you insane?
What do you do to break the cycle? Begin with YOU. Realize that in order for your life to be different, YOU MUST BE DIFFERENT. Being different feels really weird at first. You will feel like a fish out of water. But remember that in order to adopt different behavior patterns, you must adopt different behavior, thoughts and eventually beliefs. It takes time and lots of consistent mental work. Over time though, you can do it……..you can change your life. BUT you must begin with YOU!!
How ironic that the Groundhog Day is all about shadows. A shadow is an area where direct light from a light source cannot reach due to obstruction by an object. The obstruction in this analogy is you and your unproductive, faulty beliefs and patterns. Do yourself a favor and get out of your own way today. Try to thoughtfully respond to others instead of reacting. Your figurative spring could be just around the corner.