In our house, on any given day, someone is probably playing a video game SKYRIM. I do not play but I do listen/hear the game being played. There is a character named Lydia who is a helper that you gain at some juncture in the game. She has the armor and protective clothing that your character gives her. She attends to every adventure/quest that your character goes on. If you get into a battle, without so much as a word, she will join and help you in that endeavor. She will carry anything that you give her…….and she repeats the line ” I am sworn to carry your burdens” continuously as you are helped by her.
Lydia sometimes gets in the way but her intention is always to help. She also says throughout the game that she has your back. And she means it. It does not matter what you are doing, Lydia’s is there, helping as best she can with whatever power/armor that you have given her. She is the epitome of a friend/helper. She never questions what you are doing. She waits for your cue and then she is instantly all in for the effort to help you.
I have been married twice before. Once for 22 years and briefly for 6 months when I was diagnosed with cancer. I had been told by previous spouses that they had my back. In the end, they did not. When the chips were down, I turned around and found myself quite alone and without ANY help.
While John and I were writing our vows recently, we joked about saying: “I am sworn to carry your burdens” as our wedding vows. But quite simplistically, that is what marriage vows are about. Carrying one another burdens. That is where the better, worse, sick, health, riches and poverty part come in. Whatever burdens or concerns your spouse should be your burden as well. I am so blessed to have a husband who has proven time and again that he is sworn to carry my burdens and he does have my back. I have also had the opportunity to reciprocate, over the past 2 years. It is with this in mind that we wrote vows and promised to continue to love, respect and help one another………come what may!! We are sworn to carry one another burdens………..lol!! Yes we are!