Reflections on being or becoming BALD.
Wish you were Hair……From Hair to Eternity………..Hair today Gone Tomorrow 🙂
These are some sayings that I wore proudly on hats and T Shirts when I was BALD.
To the casual non cancer observer, you think…..what’s the big deal it’s just HAIR? But to the cancer patient who has had all or part of her femininity scarred or removed completely……..it can seem huge. It feels like insult to injury. It is bad enough to lose your feeling of well being, your health, perhaps many other things, the loss of hair is just the topper. I really did not cry the day John shaved all my hair off, by the time he did it, it was choking me while I tried to sleep, it was a relief to let it go. The day I cried was the day all my eyelashes and eyebrows just rubbed off. I looked in the mirror and I looked like Mrs. Potatohead without her eyes and I started to cry. As I began to cry a line from “A League of their Own” came to mind. “There’s no crying in baseball”……….it made me laugh out loud. When I looked in the mirror as I was laughing, I realized, I still had a great SMILE 🙂 Sooooooooooo……..I bleached my teeth and decided I would dazzle folks with my SMILE and they would say…….what bald head? All I could see was your brilliant smile.
I read this poem while I was on chemo and it made me smile…….hope it does the same for you:
A WISDOM STORY- THE Three HAIRS.
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. “Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today.” So she did and she had a wonderful day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. “Hmmm..,” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today.” So she did and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. “Well,” she said, “Today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.” So she did, and she had a fun, fun day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head. “YAY!” she exclaimed. “I don’t have to fix my hair today!”
Attitude is everything. Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly.
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… It’s about learning to dance in the rain.
May we all learn to “Dance in the rain!”