I have made it a practice in this last year to stop censoring the good stuff in my mind. For instance, yesterday at the gym I saw a woman with an absolutely beaming countenance. She lit up the area when she saw/ encountered her friend. She had a remarkable smile and made me feel better for encountering it. I spoke right up and told her what a beautiful, shining smile and spirit she had. Which, if possible, only made her face even brighter and she stated I had “made her day”.
In times past, I would have had the same exact thought but I would have kept it to myself. What a waste!! These positive affirmations of the people around us are to be SHARED. So, why don’t we do it? I know prior to cancer, I was afraid to look or sound silly or trite. Or I did not trust my own valuations…….not so today! If I see something that is good, praiseworthy, superlitive…….I state it out loud. The surprise and positive feedback that I get in return is its own reward. You can “make someone’s day” so easily. Perhaps, turn their whole outlook around. Can you imagine if we all started doing this? WOW, it would be awesome. Children do this sort of thing all the time. It is one of the great and endearing things about kids. Somewhere along the line we lose this and it is indeed a loss.
The only warning I have is that you MUST be genuine and positive. This is not pure flattery for flattery’s sake this is genuinely seeing a superlative in another human being and sincerely stating your appreciation. There is a big difference. The more genuine you become, the easier this exercise is.
It amazes me how quick we are to point out the negative and flaws that we find in the people around us and keep silent about the good stuff. So, I say………………stop censoring the good stuff. Let it out loud, it just may change a life today. That life could very well be yours!!
1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.